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Saturday, April 30, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: WORKSHOP | RUNWAY I (1 WEEK TO GO!)




OPEN TO ALL PLUS SIZE MODELS! Learn how to start your passion for modeling, update your skills and gain insight from today’s best plus size fashion team!

Erzullie is holding a PLUS SIZE MODELING WORKSHOP: RUNWAY I on MAY 7, 2016, Saturday, 1pm-4pm at the Erzullie Showroom, Eastwood City, Quezon City.

The workshop is open only for both amateur/professional Female Plus Size Models in the following size range: (You only need to have 1 out of the 3 required measurements to be able to join)

-BUST: 40 inches and above | WAIST: 30 inches and above | HIPS: 40 inches and above
-NO HEIGHT REQUIREMENT
-MUST HAVE: Fitted Black/White shirt, Denim Shorts/Leggings/Jeggings or Fitted Jeans and High Heels

5 SLOTS ONLY! REGISTRATION FEE OF PHP 2,000 GETS YOU THE FOLLOWING!

- 1 on 1 modeling coaching/session
- 1 trial photoshoot set (10 shots each model)
- Participate in a talk and Q&A about the topic
- Group coaching session (discussion of the photos)
- Get featured in all major Erzullie social media accounts
- 1 Erzullie item of your choice
- 1 edited photo (digital form to be emailed max. of 7 days after the shoot, chosen by the photographer.)

NOTE:  Terms and Conditions apply (to be emailed to those who will apply)

HOW TO JOIN: (DEADLINE OF REGISTRATION IS MAY 4, 2016, WEDNESDAY)

1) FILL UP THE FORM BELOW



2) WAIT FOR THE ERZULLIE EMAIL AND FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO CONFIRM YOUR SLOT.


See you there, ladies!

Cheers!


Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE NEWS: THIS ERZULLIE PRE-HOLIDAY 2016 DRESS IS ALREADY SOLD OUT!



Slated to be released this June to the public, this Erzullie Pre-Holiday 2016 dress is already sold out due to the VIP's. We would like to thank the Erzulliestas that bought it. We are actually down half of the collection already. So excited about the new things ahead!

Want to buy it before it runs out? Sign up here.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com


Friday, April 29, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: MONICA REYES | MORE FOR MONICA



It has been a while since we have heard from Erzullie Icon and Plus Size Model, Monica Reyes. At the peak of her modeling career, she suddenly disappeared from the limelight. One would say that that would be a modeling career suicide, but then again she just emerged with a high profile career, a fresh sense of strong independence and a love story to share for everyone. If that was the trade off--- the returns are high.



#1 The last time that we have heard from you was last 2014. What happened from then on?

I had to focus on my work as I was a Management Trainee then. The difficulty of being such is like being in college x 100; you work 9 hours a day, study ‘til the wee hours of the night, wake up early in the morning to go back to work plus, the pressure of being able to pass the exams cos otherwise, you are obliged to leave and be unemployed. Also, the distance of my workplace from home was unbearable, which forced me to stay near my workplace, leaving me only two days (which is the weekend) of the week to spend time with my family. To put it simply, my 2014 was all about study-work-family and a bit of social life. Because of this, I needed to stop modeling for a while.

But I am definitely going back to modeling soon. Truth be told, modeling has really been part of my frustration and passion. Not only could I express myself but I too could inspire others, especially plus size women, to be happy about themselves.



#2 Heard from the grapevine that you are in a new relationship. How did that come about? 

My relationship now was all unexpected – unexpected guy, unexpected time, unexpected feeling, unexpected memories and unexpected lessons. It was as if God really paved the way for us. We were just enjoying each other’s company; eating out, drinking, quick getaways and then one day, we just learned to love each other more than we thought we’d love each other.

No kidding, I got attracted to him the first time I saw him. I remember how I’d tell him (‘til now actually) that I have a crush on him – and that’s because he’s really gwapo in my eyes (yiii haha).

More than that, I got attracted to him cos he was such a genuine person, no pretentions. He would say things and do things because he mean it and not because someone asked him to nor was he forced to.

I appreciate the fact that despite him being in school, he would make time for me and do simple gestures such as bring me to work, pick me up after work, have dinner with me, study with me et al. It’s also a plus that I am (mostly) his firsts; his first girlfriend, first girl to introduce to his family, first beach trip and many more.

I’m not saying that just because I’m his first means that things are a lot different than those who are not.  All I’m saying is that me being his first supports the fact of how genuine of a person he is.

I believe that what made me attractive for him would be the fact that I am not judgmental, intelligent, understanding and simply, a happy person. Being non-judgmental is such a huge factor because I am certain that everyone is being judged by so much people in so many angles; hence, me being non-judgmental allowed him to be himself.

When I met him, really, trust me, I wasn’t looking for one. Back story, I came from a 5-year relationship; almost got married even. But then, things didn’t work out due to reasons I need not to discuss. Until I remember this tarot reading session I had with a good friend who told me that there will be this one guy who would change things for me. And by change, I mean would make me happy than that of my past. Certainly, it’s a 360-degree turn. From almost settling down then going back to square one.



#3 Do you think someone has to be “looking” for a relationship to GET a relationship? Why or why not?

Personally, I believe that you cannot look for love because then, you’ll be forced to love and settle for what’s not meant to be.

A simple metaphor would be shopping; you are looking for a dress so that you have something to wear to your friends birthday/wedding/whatever, and yet you don’t find that dress that perfectly fits you so you settle for whatever dress you see that’s your size, fits budget and the motif.

Yes, you may have found something to wear but you were forced to settle on it just so that you’d have something. And after a while, upon realizing that you didn’t really really like that dress, you give it away.

 Just like love or being in a relationship, you may have found a girl or a guy whom you think matches you, but looking deeper into it, s/he is not who you really need and want. That’s why most people don’t really fight for their relationship; they easily call it quits and give up. Why? Because they settled for something/someone that’s not for them.



#4 Do you think that being a plus size woman hinders you from getting relationship? Why or why not?

I don’t think that being a plus size woman would hinder you from getting into a relationship. Simply because it is the mind, the heart and the soul of the person that are connecting. Not their thighs, not their arms nor their tummy. Because a person who truly loves you, would love you for who you really are.

Some people would think that yes, plus size women would get less dates than their opposites but actually, that’s not the case. Plus size women are just as charming and pretty as that of their opposites. It’s only that most plus size women put down their selves too much, and think that no one would like them.

At the end of the day, this is what I think about plus size dating:

First, never settle for something/someone you do not deserve. Remember, you deserve nothing but the best. Next, just be who you really are. If it doesn’t work out on the first date, thank God. Because it would be such a waste if it cost you X number of dates for you to realize that he’s not for you.

Third, never, never, compare yourself with your opposites (small/average sized women). Remember that a man falls in love with their mind, heart and soul – not with their eyes. Because if ever they do fall in love with their eyes, then that’s just a crush.

Fourth, always learn to leave something for yourself. Most plus size women are afraid that no one else would love them, other than their present guy. Thus, they bow down to whatever their man tells them to even if it’s against their principles and in the end, leaving the woman with nothing cos the man took everything away. Remember, if a man loves you, he wouldn’t want anything but the best for you. So if he wants or asks you to do otherwise, girl, drop it.

Finally, make sure that you are happy and that you love yourself (in short, you are whole) before you love someone else. Because how can you love someone fully if you can’t even love yourself?

***

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Thursday, April 28, 2016

PLUS SIZE DESIGNER: HOW TO BE SINGLE, WHILE TAKEN (FULL ARTICLE)



Some Erzulliestas requested that I posted this all in one go. It was broken into 3 parts, as I thought it would be too long. But, hey, you ladies are the boss. So, here it is. 

***

What Aries? That’s confusing!

I know. Let me clear that up for you.

When you are in a relationship, specifically if it has been more than half a decade, you may find yourself stuck or molded in a way that has become so strange to you. If you’re like me (and hopefully, there are other women who are like me), you are the type of woman that provides so much for your partner that you adapt yourself to his/her needs.

I am like that. I like to provide money, time, effort, love, support etc. Anything (well almost) that my partner or anyone that I love needs or even want.

But that’s wrong. I will tell you right now.

You see my previously debunked philosophy is like this: if I provide people for what they love and need, then they will give me the love, effort and commitment that is equal to or even greater than what I have given or expected.

That’s the most selfish and untruthful logic I have ever created in my whole life. Not only was it subtle emotional blackmail, but I was setting myself up to heartaches way before the relationship has started.

So, back to my partner. I met my current love. Lo and behold, he is a better provider than me. He earns more money, gives more patience, has the most sincere and pure intentions. He is so much better of a provider than me, he already bought it, sent it and gave it --- EVEN BEFORE I even knew that I wanted it.

It took time before I got used to it. I mean, I’m a provider. I am the one who provides. I don’t take. I give. But with the kindness and patience of my partner, my stance softened. Until I have allowed my partner to provide for me so much, I have lost my identity when he cannot provide anymore. Not that he can’t, he could --- it’s just that I don’t know what was missing. And if I can’t tell him what was missing --- how can he provide it for me?

Needless to say, I became really unhappy about myself. It came to a point that I am so dependent on my partner that when he is gone, I don’t know what to do with myself.

I become restless. I don’t know what I want. I don’t know what to do. I get depressed and frustrated. What was going on with me? I don’t understand. I became --- needy.

And to satisfy my needy side, what did I do? I turned to self-help books and became a self-help junkie for a while. I have read so many books and inspirations that I was going to explode, if I read and absorb one more. But what’s worse is that, the more I read, the more I got confused. The more I got confused, the more I got angry. For short, it got me nowhere.

Then came that faithful day.

I am at that point where all of my resources physical, emotional, rational, spiritual etc. are all given to other people and situations but me. I was yelling internally. I am in danger. I have nothing now! What am I going to do?

My initial reaction? Let’s provide to others more. Maybe they will give us the resources we need.

Big mistake. I wasn’t able to one day and I disappointed someone. I would always remember what she told me, “next time, if you commit to something, commit to it.”

I SNAPPED.

I walked out of the room and went down to the kitchen. And as I was cleaning up the dishes and slamming them to the sink, it occurred to me --- “no amount of love, commitment or effort can make anyone love or stay with me.”

Bitter. Dark. I know. But somehow that thought liberated me.

I have realized that all of the sadness and bitter situations that I am encountering right now is my fault. All of it because I give and give and give and give --- and then expect that they will give it back. Truth is, it never happens that way. Why? Because we have no control over anyone else but us.

What did this leave me? Disappointments, emptiness, depletion and insecurity.

And so, this wisdom was born: “no amount of love, commitment or effort can make anyone love or stay with me. So might as well do what I want.” This epiphany liberated me. I don’t have to provide for these people anymore because no matter what I do, they will never love me as much as I love them.  With that, this was added: “so might as well give that all to myself.”.

“Give all of that juicy love to myself.” That was my new thought. That was my new rule. At that point, it wasn’t yet clear to me. I don’t know how will this affect my relationships or my way of living.

The person who gave me this kind of epiphany, apologized to me for being demanding. I forgave the person, of course, but silently vowed to myself that from now on, I will be committing myself to self-love, power and dignity. I will regain all that was lost to me. I vowed to fill myself to the brim with love, beauty, power and prosperity. I will be my own champion.

It was at that moment that I knew that I have to learn HOW TO BE SINGLE, WHILE BEING TAKEN.

Which then begs the first question --- “Where the fuck do I start?”

I asked myself, “Okay, what do you want?” I replied, “Megamall!”

So, I went there and shopped around. Then, when I was about to go home, I opened my phone and there was no signal. I panicked. How am I going to order a car now?

My mind was raising. Immediately, this thought came to mind: “I can just ask my man to pick me up here. I will just wait for him here.”

But he was going to the gym. It will take him 6 hours before I get picked up and I wanted to go to Tiendesitas because it has been a while since I have gone there. Then I yelled in my mind: “But I don’t have a signal! What am I going to do?”

I prayed. I prayed that there would be a signal and a car would be ordered, but it didn’t happen. I got frustrated even more. Until, I have realized something. I saw this in The Walking Dead. Father Gabriel grabbed his machete and one of the town people asked him where he was going. “We are all praying to the Lord to save our town. Well God has answered our prayers. He has given us courage to save ourselves.”

“I need to save myself.” I said to myself.

“But I will have to walk. Someone might rob me out there.” I feared.

“Do you want me to provide for you?” I said to myself.

“Yes.” I replied.

“Good. Let’s go.” Metaphorically, I grabbed my own hand and led myself to Starbucks Pearl Drive. Nothing happened to me. I was safe. Everyone ignored me. I was right. I fulfilled a promise that I gave to myself --- I provided for me. I was my own champion.

“Self-reliance, bitch.” I said with pride, as I have found better reception, ordered a car and waited in a clean, safe and air-conditioned area.

I have realized that I have found my one true love. My perfect match. I have been looking for other people to fill the gaps that I have lost because I was giving too much, when all that I really needed was to look inside of me. I fell in love with myself and I am going to be one of the most annoying power couple ever.

Fast forward, my day ended perfectly. I have finally found someone who will shower me with all the love and affection in the world --- me. Me, on the other hand, found the provider that she has always wanted --- still me.

And I am perfect for myself. The more I provided for myself, the more I loved myself, which pleased me. And the more that I loved myself, the more motivation I got to provide for me. I became more self-reliant, confident and fulfilled. It was a win-win situation.

It was at this moment that I have found the ultimate meaning of self-love for me. It was about self-reliance and satisfying yourself with yourself. And I am going to tell you one thing --- this has vastly improved my relationships with other people. I no longer depended on them to fulfill the emptiness that I have felt inside. I was happier and the less expectations that I have of my partner, friends or family, the less disappointments I get. And the less disappointments that I have of them, the more space that I have in my brain and heart to enjoy their company rather than wondering when they are going to repay me.

I was free form the pressure of giving everything to everyone and I was finally free to supply myself with everything. And from that was born the greatest relationship that I will ever get or need in this lifetime.

***

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

PLUS SIZE EDITORIAL: "ARTISTIC EDGE"








Just loving this plus size editorial featuring Erzulliesta Zaza Rodriguez. Photography by Dale Villegas (also her debut!). Cropped top and pants by Erzullie.

Keep the fierce

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

PLUS SIZE STYLE: TASK OF THE WEEK...


And pair it with your current ensemble. Nothing like an updated OOTD.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Monday, April 25, 2016

PLUS SIZE POWER: "BE YOUR OWN HEROINE"



You are the master of your own story and the writer of the composition of your spirit.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE MODEL: #TNEI2016 BATCH 3 INVITES ARE RELEASED!



Check your email, ladies! The invites for the LAST batch of #TNEI2016 have already been released. Check both INBOX AND SPAM.

May the fierce be with you.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Sunday, April 24, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: #TNEI2016 BATCH 3 IS CLOSED!



We would like to thank all of the models that applied for the #TNEI2016 Batch 3. We will be reviewing your applications. Invites will be released on April 25, 2016.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Saturday, April 23, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: WORKSHOP | RUNWAY I (2 WEEKS TO GO!)








OPEN TO ALL PLUS SIZE MODELS! Learn how to start your passion for modeling, update your skills and gain insight from today’s best plus size fashion team!

Erzullie is holding a PLUS SIZE MODELING WORKSHOP: RUNWAY I on MAY 7, 2016, Saturday, 1pm-4pm at the Erzullie Showroom, Eastwood City, Quezon City.

The workshop is open only for both amateur/professional Female Plus Size Models in the following size range: (You only need to have 1 out of the 3 required measurements to be able to join)

-BUST: 40 inches and above | WAIST: 30 inches and above | HIPS: 40 inches and above
-NO HEIGHT REQUIREMENT
-MUST HAVE: Fitted Black/White shirt, Denim Shorts/Leggings/Jeggings or Fitted Jeans and High Heels

5 SLOTS ONLY! REGISTRATION FEE OF PHP 2,000 GETS YOU THE FOLLOWING!

- 1 on 1 modeling coaching/session


- 1 trial photoshoot set (10 shots each model)
- Participate in a talk and Q&A about the topic


- Group coaching session (discussion of the photos)
- Get featured in all major Erzullie social media accounts


- 1 Erzullie item of your choice
- 1 edited photo (digital form to be emailed max. of 7 days after the shoot, chosen by the photographer.)

NOTE:  Terms and Conditions apply (to be emailed to those who will apply)


HOW TO JOIN: (DEADLINE OF REGISTRATION IS MAY 4, 2016, WEDNESDAY)

1) FILL UP THE FORM BELOW



2) WAIT FOR THE ERZULLIE EMAIL AND FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO CONFIRM YOUR SLOT.


See you there, ladies!

Cheers!


Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE MODEL: #TNEI2016 BATCH 3 LAST DAY OF SUBMISSION IS TODAY!



The registration for the last batch for #TNEI2016 is today! Did you register yet? Click the button below:


May the fierce be with you!

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Friday, April 22, 2016

PLUS SIZE DESIGNER: A LOVE LETTER TO MYSELF




In all honesty, it took me years before I finally learned how to love myself. I know that I have been chanting this since ever in my life, but it’s one way to say it, another way to believe it and then a whole new highway to actually live it.

And now, I can honestly say that I am on that highway. I am actually living what I am saying. I actually love myself and not just in a physical, emotional or spiritual way, but even down to the deepest and scary parts of my mind. And so, I finally get to write an honest love letter to myself.

Dear Self,

I love how you made your mistakes in the past because it turns out you are right. They are the right decisions at that time.

Confusing right?

But if I think about it, you made that choice because at the point that is what you thought was right. Unfortunately, after making that choice, you got hurt, so you thought AT THAT POINT that it was the wrong thing to do. But it was because of those "wrong choices" that we were led to the hurt that helped us find other things that made us stronger as we survived.

It’s the mistakes that led us to know who our real friends are. It’s the mistakes that we learned what’s the best choice next time. It’s the mistakes that taught us that we can actually survive a tragedy on our own. It’s the mistakes that made us learn the wrong things about ourselves so that we can make it right and grow from that.

You have made the right choice by making those mistakes. I want to thank you for that.

I know that at some of those points, all that you can do is forgive yourself, but I have a whole new understanding for it. Let’s just say that next time this happens, after I forgive myself, I will also remind myself that this pain will be good to me someday.

For now, I understand that even with a wrong choice, you still made the right choice. It won’t be apparent now, but it will be in the future. You have always loved yourself, even when you thought you didn’t. And you did that by making the right choice that didn’t appear to be one at that time.

You made that choice for me.

And so, I thank you and I want to say, I love you. Don’t beat yourself up so much anymore because this time it will be different. We are one and unified now. We are stronger, better, wise and more beautiful than before. The fun part? I think we really do become more radiant with age.

I love you, all of you. I look forward to growing even older, funnier and wiser.

Love, US

***

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Thursday, April 21, 2016

PLUS SIZE EVENT: PLUS SIZE GARAGE SALE! EVERYTHING PHP 250 AND BELOW! (MAY 21, 2016)



Upgrade your Plus Size wardrobe with a budget of Php 250 and below! 

Shop at Erzullie's Plus Size Garage Sale: Everything PHP 250 and Below event happening on May 21, 2016, Saturday, 2PM-5PM at the Function Room 1, Legrand II, Eastwood City, Quezon City. Entrance fee is by donation only! All transactions are CASH BASIS ONLY. 

Check out the map and instructions on how to get there below!







Shop the closets of the Erzullie designers, models and other Erzulliestas! Dainty Dose, our favorite eclair shop, will be there too.

See you there, ladies!

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE FASHION: #OOTD "MONOKRATA"



Monokrata is a Hungarian word for a government ruled by one person.

Nothing defines that more than Erzulliesta Zaza's personal style. Ruled by her own with a blast of unicorn hair, her all black light layered ensemble is anything but the masses. She's wearing Erzullie Resort 2015 cropped top, matched with Erzullie Resort 2014 maxi pants. It doesn't hurt that she got Doc Martens on.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

PLUS SIZE EVENT: ERZULLIE FIRST LOOK | PRE-HOLIDAY 2016



We would like to thank all of the Erzulliestas that went to Erzullie's First Look: Pre-Holiday 2016. You girls are amazing and we had so much fun presenting to you the collection that will be publicly released on June 2016. That's right! For these ladies, it's 2 months early.

And because you ladies shopped like a boss, we are now down with almost HALF the collection. Thank you!

Check out the event photos below!

(L-R) ERZULLIESTAS ZAZA RODRIGUEZ, CAROL PERLA, JONAH GO AND TATA PENDON WATCHING THE FASHION PRESENTATION

ERZULLIE DESIGNER, BERNA CUEVAS, PRESENTING THE PRE-HOLIDAY 2016 COLLECTION

ERZULLIE DESIGNER BERNA CUEVAS DOING HER THING

WHAT ARE THEY LOOKING AT? THE PRE-HOLIDAY 2016 COLLECTION OF COURSE. 

ERZULLIE ICON LOREN MONARES (BOTTOM PART OF THE PHOTO) REPORTING LIVE ABOUT THE EVENT

SOCIALIZATION TIME

ERZULLIE MARKETING ASSISTANT DALE VILLEGAS WEARING ERZULLIE

ERZULLIESTA CAROL PERLA WEARING ERZULLIE MAXI DRESS

ERZULLIE DESIGNER BERNA CUEVAS WEARING ERZULLIE PRE-HOLIDAY 2016

FIERCE & FIERCE

ERZULLIE DESIGNER, ARIES DE GUZMAN, DOING A PIN UP LOOK BY CAROL PERLA

ERZULLIESTA TATA PENDON SHOPPING!

ERZULLIE ICON AND PLUS SIZE MODEL, LOREN MONARES, BEING HER FIERCE SELF

WHERE WOULD WE BE WITHOUT THESE?


'Til the next one!

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE DESIGNER: HOW TO BE SINGLE, WHILE TAKEN (PART III)



From PART II...

I am at that point where all of my resources physical, emotional, rational, spiritual etc. are all given to other people and situations but me. I was yelling internally. I am in danger. I have nothing now! What am I going to do? ... I SNAPPED... It was at that moment that I knew that I have to learn HOW TO BE SINGLE, WHILE BEING TAKEN. Which then begs the first question --- “Where the fuck do I start?”

I asked myself, “Okay, what do you want?” I replied, “Megamall!”

So, I went there and shopped around. Then, when I was about to go home, I opened my phone and there was no signal. I panicked. How am I going to order a car now?

My mind was raising. Immediately, this thought came to mind: “I can just ask my man to pick me up here. I will just wait for him here.”

But he was going to the gym. It will take him 6 hours before I get picked up and I wanted to go to Tiendesitas because it has been a while since I have gone there. Then I yelled in my mind: “But I don’t have a signal! What am I going to do?”

I prayed. I prayed that there would be a signal and a car would be ordered, but it didn’t happen. I got frustrated even more. Until, I have realized something. I saw this in The Walking Dead. Father Gabriel grabbed his machete and one of the town people asked him where he was going. “We are all praying to the Lord to save our town. Well God has answered our prayers. He has given us courage to save ourselves.”

“I need to save myself.” I said to myself.

“But I will have to walk. Someone might rob me out there.” I feared.

“Do you want me to provide for you?” I said to myself.

“Yes.” I replied.

“Good. Let’s go.” Metaphorically, I grabbed my own hand and led myself to Starbucks Pearl Drive. Nothing happened to me. I was safe. Everyone ignored me. I was right. I fulfilled a promise that I gave to myself --- I provided for me. I was my own champion.

“Self-reliance, bitch.” I said with pride, as I have found better reception, ordered a car and waited in a clean, safe and air-conditioned area.

I have realized that I have found my one true love. My perfect match. I have been looking for other people to fill the gaps that I have lost because I was giving too much, when all that I really needed was to look inside of me. I fell in love with myself and I am going to be one of the most annoying power couple ever.

Fast forward, my day ended perfectly. I have finally found someone who will shower me with all the love and affection in the world --- me. Me, on the other hand, found the provider that she has always wanted --- still me.

And I am perfect for myself. The more I provided for myself, the more I loved myself, which pleased me. And the more that I loved myself, the more motivation I got to provide for me. I became more self-reliant, confident and fulfilled. It was a win-win situation.

It was at this moment that I have found the ultimate meaning of self-love for me. It was about self-reliance and satisfying yourself with yourself. And I am going to tell you one thing --- this has vastly improved my relationships with other people. I no longer depended on them to fulfill the emptiness that I have felt inside. I was happier and the less expectations that I have of my partner, friends or family, the less disappointments I get. And the less disappointments that I have of them, the more space that I have in my brain and heart to enjoy their company rather than wondering when they are going to repay me.

I was free form the pressure of giving everything to everyone and I was finally free to supply myself with everything. And from that was born the greatest relationship that I will ever get or need in this lifetime.


Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

PLUS SIZE STYLE: TASK OF THE WEEK...


This is a bit of a tough one. But, Erzulliestas love a challenge right?

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Monday, April 18, 2016

PLUS SIZE POWER: "I AM MY OWN SOULMATE"



Sometimes we can fulfill our own needs of companionship. If you can do that, that's inner peace, my Erzulliesta.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Sunday, April 17, 2016

PLUS SIZE FASHION: #OOTD "IT'S ROYALTY"



We are absolutely loving Erzulliesta Tata's Erzullie OOTD! This Holiday 2012 dress is a classic. Paired with a cocktail ring, gold heels and a pop of yellow from a scarf and she's all royal!

Love it!

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Saturday, April 16, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: WORKSHOP | RUNWAY I (3 WEEKS TO GO!)




OPEN TO ALL PLUS SIZE MODELS! Learn how to start your passion for modeling, update your skills and gain insight from today’s best plus size fashion team!

Erzullie is holding a PLUS SIZE MODELING WORKSHOP: RUNWAY I on MAY 7, 2016, Saturday, 1pm-4pm at the Erzullie Showroom, Eastwood City, Quezon City.

The workshop is open only for both amateur/professional Female Plus Size Models in the following size range: (You only need to have 1 out of the 3 required measurements to be able to join)

-BUST: 40 inches and above | WAIST: 30 inches and above | HIPS: 40 inches and above
-NO HEIGHT REQUIREMENT
-MUST HAVE: Fitted Black/White shirt, Denim Shorts/Leggings/Jeggings or Fitted Jeans and High Heels

5 SLOTS ONLY! REGISTRATION FEE OF PHP 2,000 GETS YOU THE FOLLOWING!

- 1 on 1 modeling coaching/session
- 1 trial photoshoot set (10 shots each model)
- Participate in a talk and Q&A about the topic
- Group coaching session (discussion of the photos)
- Get featured in all major Erzullie social media accounts
- 1 Erzullie item of your choice
- 1 edited photo (digital form to be emailed max. of 7 days after the shoot, chosen by the photographer.)

NOTE:  Terms and Conditions apply (to be emailed to those who will apply)

HOW TO JOIN: (DEADLINE OF REGISTRATION IS MAY 4, 2016, WEDNESDAY)

1) FILL UP THE FORM BELOW



2) WAIT FOR THE ERZULLIE EMAIL AND FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO CONFIRM YOUR SLOT.

See you there, ladies!

Cheers!


Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE POWER: HOW DO YOU GET YOUR “PLEASURE” BACK?



I woke up today --- not feeling anything. I am not happy. I am not sad. I am not elated. I am not depressed either. I am just smack right into the middle of my feelings. I am content and not desiring all at the same time. It’s actually pretty amazing if you think about it.

So what’s the problem?

Well that’s the point. I am not feeling anything. No desire. No joy. No sadness. Crazy as it may sound, I actually had to “force cry” myself last night just to feel something. In all honesty though, I have failed miserably on that. I wasn’t also able to cry.

And so, it’s official. I have become numb on life. I have lost the ability to feel pleasure.

How can this happen though?

One moment I was ecstatic finally being able to love myself and be happy with it. Next moment I am now in the middle. I guess, the honeymoon phase have already died down and this is the part where you start to keep on working with the current relationship that you do have.

How do you keep the fire burning? Where do you go? What do you do?

My answer: just like any relationship that you know is meant to be --- you have to fight back --- HARD.

And so, I centered myself and listened. “Okay, Aries. What do you want to do?”

I had a notion that I wanted to go to Greenhills and shop around. Maybe visit my favorite restaurant --- Roots. And so, I did just that. No questions. I even bought a book that was surprisingly 50% off! After that, I went to my sister’s place and visited her. It has been a while. It was fun. I even got to play with my niece.

The day ended with me planning a nice date for myself. I took a nice long shower, complete with body scrub, hair wash, rinse and condition. I moisturized myself and laid out my best date clothing. After primping myself, I went out, wet hair and all and proceeded to eat in a restaurant that I have always wanted to visit alone but feel awkward in --- Outback steakhouse.

Oh don’t be over dramatic, Aries. Why would you feel awkward with that? You would ask.

As soon as I have approached the restaurant, the usher asked me if I was with “somebody”, am I looking for “someone” or at least waiting for “him”. I answered, “No. I am alone.” She asked me if I wanted to sit at the bar. “The bar” --- where singles are forced to eat because the rest of the tables are actually for big groups. Well, I am a big group. So I asked for a table in a quiet corner.

The restaurant was bustling and yes, I am the only ONE person inside there. Everyone else was in a big group, but I didn’t feel like a sad sack. It was actually liberating. I am now free to savor and smell every bite of my food and laugh at the jokes that my new book was making. I ended the night with coffee in my favorite cafĂ© --- Recession coffee. Never have I felt so rejuvenated with a cup. And with these, I GOT MY PLEASURE BACK.

So, long story short --- how do you get pleasure back in life when you feel numb about it? Listen to yourself and just follow without question. You’ll never know until it leads you to a funny book, luxurious shower, delectable dinner and fantastic coffee.

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

Thursday, April 14, 2016

PLUS SIZE MODEL: LOREN MONARES | CONSCIOUS UN-SINGLING



There is no doubt. Erzullie Icon Loren Monares is one of the top plus size models in the country. Who would have thought that this curvaceous lady from Dumaguete will make such a splash in the Manila fashion scene and abroad? And with her recent crowning moment --- being featured in a French/English Magazine VolUp2 --- it seems like her modeling career just keeps on going up. Which begs the question --- why is she single and how can we un-single this Erzulliesta?

#1 You are currently single and dating. What do you think of it? Sad or sexy?

For me, being single has nothing to do with me being a plus size. I know this is hard to be accepted by others, but these are my thoughts about it.

Each of us has our own preference, be it our food, clothes or friends that we want to be with. Same goes for finding a partner. Some would like bigger or smaller partners. It’s about finding the one that you want and wants you back.

I am happily single and ready to mingle. Happiness is just a state of mind whether you are with a partner or not. Just as long as you have a positive outlook in life.

Besides, there’s so much more in life than being in a relationship that we need to appreciate. In my case, I learned to appreciate my family, friends, work, opportunities and other blessings. With all these, I always feel the love which keeps me going.

Of course, I’m not saying I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. When the right man comes in the right time, then I would whole heartedly welcome him into my life. My point is, there is so much more in life that we can be happy about and not just having a boyfriend.

As to do I think there is an expiration date on love? Love conquers all. It does not have an end. My destiny might not come on the exact time I need it but it comes in God’s time. I always believe that God knows the perfect timing for us. So even if it seems like it’s taking quite some time now, so long as I am alive, I am willing to wait until the right one comes along.

#2 With that said, are you now ready to open up to a new relationship? Why or why not? 

Yes I am. (giggles) I have been single for more than 2 years already, so I believe I have enjoyed so much of my “single” status haha. Besides, I’m not getting any younger, so I should face reality that soon enough I also need to settle down and have my own family.



#3 What’s the point in your life that you knew you were ready for a relationship?

In my case, after the past relationship, I can say that I am ready to be in a relationship again when I know I have fully moved on. This means I have learned to forgive and let go of the past. I have picked up myself and became whole again.

#4 Describe the ideal relationship. Why these characteristics?

My ideal relationship is when there is love and respect with each other. It’s also important to have an open communication between the two. And for this to work there should be trust with each other. Most importantly, an ideal relationship for me is when God is in the center of it.

Definitely I would go for exclusive relationship. This is because I was raised in an environment of loyalty, love and respect for each other. Exclusivity to me is equivalent to loyalty.



#5 Describe your ideal partner. Why these characteristics?

My ideal partner would be someone who has God at the center of his life. Also, I would want to have a partner who knows how to balance work and life. Someone who knows when to take things or matters seriously and when to have fun at same time. Other qualities of my ideal partner would be faithful, loving, and has a clear direction of his life. Definitely, a person with good sense of humor would also attract me.

#6 What’s the best kind of date you can think of? Why that?

A candlelight dinner in a fine restaurant with a quartet serenading us. And while I am being serenaded, my man will hand over a bouquet of flowers and ask me to dance. Reason is, only a few gentlemen do this nowadays and it would make me feel really special and nostalgic. If the guy gets out of his way to do something extraordinary for me. I will definitely treasure that moment.



#7 Are you still into being courted / “ligaw”? Why or why not?

Yes I am still into “ligaw” or being courted as I am a Filipina and I am very conservative. I would like to know the guy better before getting into a relationship. It would take time to get to know the person better. It’s really important not to rush things and get to know the person deeper just to make sure that we are compatible. It’s important for me to know the “bad” side of the person because this will help me assess myself if I really love this person. Because I believe that when you love a person, you are willing to accept him as a whole, both his good and bad sides.

#8 What’s the cheesiest gift you can think of coming from a suitor, but you know you like it anyway? Why that?

I really have so much love for flowers. I feel that giving flowers is one of the sweetest ways to express your care or love for a person. Having said that, a very “large” bouquet of flowers sent to my office would be the cheesiest gift and gesture I can get from a suitor. This would make me feel really kilig to death and since this is a very LARGE bouquet this will be visible to everybody in the office.



#9 What makes you stay in a relationship? Why so?

The 3 things that will make me stay in a relationship are Love, Respect and Trust. These are the 3 key things, I believe, that strengthens both and the relationship.

No matter how hard the problem or challenge you may face, so long as you have love that binds you together, nothing can ever pull you down.

No matter how external factors may cause trouble between the two of you, so long as you have trust with each other, nothing can destroy your faith in your relationship.

No matter how many temptations come that may destroy you, so long as you have respect towards your partner, nothing should be able to influence you to destroy the trust and love you have for each other.


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Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com