Monday, September 19, 2016
PLUS SIZE POWER: HOW TO LOVE THE LIFE YOU ARE IN (PART 3)
FROM PART II...
You know you love your life when whether or not it’s going to be a good day, bad day, hard day, soft day, inactive day --- ANY KIND OF DAY --- to your heart you know, it’s going to be the best one for your spirit.
WHICH NOW LEADS US TO THE MAIN QUESTION--- HOW DO YOU LOVE THE LIFE YOU’RE IN?
For me, it starts with the mind and you need to really realize a couple of things:
#1 You really got everything you ever wanted right now. So it’s time for you to use these things for your enjoyment.
#2 Someone actually wants to be you right now --- so act like that person and run with it.
I want to start with #1 (OF COURSE!) Now, not a lot of people would agree with me on using this as an example, but every time I would think about this thought, this scene from Etiquettes for Mistresses, wherein Claudine Barretto’s character gives advice to Kim Chiu, pretty much sums it up.
“May choice ka --- either mag-mukmuk ka or i-enjoy mo na lang.” translation: “You have a choice --- either you mope around or just enjoy it.”
And it’s honestly the perfect thing for the first one. You got everything now and truth is, you can make up 1,000 more reasons NOT TO BE SATISFIED. But then again, why need those reasons?
The choice is yours --- either you mope around and never be satisfied or you take your beautiful life right now and enjoy it! That simple.
So how do you enjoy it? USE IT.
You have a nice family? Plan a gathering.
You have an amazing career? Work with a smile. Aim for a promotion. Make more money.
You have a great lover? Plan a date. Dress up. Surprise him.
You have a best friend? Go out with her. Have a wild night you will always remember.
Have a lot of money and free time? Travel! Pursue a hobby!
Got a phone? Browse the net. Call! Text!
USE IT. USE ALL THE BEAUTIFUL THINGS THAT YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW AND RUN WITH IT. Feel, see, eat, taste, touch, smell, digest etc. all the benefits that each and every beautiful thing in your life has to offer right now.
USE IT. That’s how you enjoy the life you have right now. USE IT. Milk the benefits as much as you can. USE IT. More example:
Got hands? PAINT. WRITE. MASSAGE. DRAW. TEXT.
Got feet? WALK. RUN. KICK. DANCE. STRIDE.
Got eyes? MUSEUM. GET SHADES. GET EYESHADOWS. PUT ON EYESHADOWS.
Got nose? SMELL ROSES. USE AROMATHERAPY. BREATHE.
Got hair? CONDITION. STYLE. CURL. CARE. TIE UP. LOOSEN UP.
The possibilities of every great thing in your life right now is almost unlimited. USE IT. TAKE IT PLEASE AND RUN WITH IT.
And if you’re curvy and fierce…
Got boobs? BUY NEW BRA. WEAR LINGERIE. TRY NEW TOPS.
Got flabs? BUY SHAPEWEAR. LOVE HIGH WASTED BIKINIS. TRY CORSETS.
Got ass? GET THONGS, G STRINGS, CHEEKY PANTIES.
You know what it is.
THE POINT IS --- USE IT AND ENJOY THE BENEFITS. That’s one way to really love the life you are in.
For the second one (someone actually wants to be you right now --- so act like that person and run with it), this is also fairly simple --- FEEL LUCKY and be thankful for it.
Let it be known and yes be rest assured that SOMEONE REALLY WANTS TO BE YOU RIGHT NOW. They may not vocalize it. You may not know these people, but it’s really a fact. Someone out there would like to be you right now. Why? Because you got something that they only wish they could have.
It could be your looks, promotion, family, good luck, faith etc. It’s the little things that TO YOU don’t matter, but to them, to have those is going to make their life better.
So if you cannot appreciate it while it’s in front of you, try to see it in another person’s point of view. And if you think about it, in all the beings in the Universe, you got to ask --- why were you chosen to have this, when someone else out there is dying to get this?
Just that small question will leave almost anyone in great awe already.
I want you to marvel at that small fact for a second. Take your time even. Put your phone/tablet down and look around you or even just look at the table in front of you or the bag that you have with you right now. Look at the stuff you own.
OUT OF ALL THE BEINGS IN THE UNIVERSE, YOU HAVE THESE STUFF WITH YOU. Sure these things may have duplicates, but OUT OF ALL OF THE DUPLICATES, this one is yours and SOMEONE out there, don’t have it. These duplicates are still limited and YOU have them.
You got to love the fact that you are so lucky right now that in the randomness of things, you still get to have what you have right now with you. You still get to use what you have with you. You still get to reap the benefits of what you have with you.
Someone out there wants to get it. Someone out there wants to experience it. But you did something that we don’t know and you end up having it.
That’s a miracle right there. So take that fact and run with it. SAY THANK YOU. Be grateful. Not everyone will ever be blessed just like you. Because your kind of blessed will always be different and never be duplicated.
Feel lucky right here and now. You were chosen to experience these things.
Now that we got those TWO major things into light. I want to add a third one.
#3 Know that life is like a river. And if something has to go, know that a new thing is on the flow.
Just like #1 I got a movie in mind for this. It’s a Disney one. It’s Pocahontas. She mentions in one of her songs, “You can’t step on the same river twice.” And it’s true. The river is constantly moving. So when you do step on it, no matter how fast, you can’t really step on the same water twice.
And if there is one thing we know about life is that it’s all about moving forward. Changes. Transformations. Resurrection. Rebirth. Transience. All those things are part of life all meant to propel us towards the new states we should be in. From this, you can compare life to a river (which is also moving forward).
And just like a river, every experience is a new experience. All first kisses, dates, love, time etc. will always be different from another. New players. New time. New place. New situation and so on.
As much as we are enjoying it by using it (#1) and being grateful about it (#2), know that part of loving the life you are in is accepting that old things will have to go so that new things will have a place.
And that’s still a positive thing.
You’re wondering why your long term relationship ended that way? A new and better relationship is coming along.
Your favorite black dress broke? It’s time to find a new one!
Your landlord is telling you to move out? Here’s a new opportunity to find a new neighborhood!
You may even be surprised. Maybe there is no direct replacement, but there will definitely be a new thing coming your way.
My direct experience on this one is that I used to have a job that I really enjoyed. I was really grateful for it because it even paid great money that supported my lifestyle. Unfortunately, things went awry on the job. I was constantly disrespected and unappreciated by my boss. I just knew that I had to let go, but I was afraid that if I do let go of that job, I won’t be able to find a new one.
But I just literally said, “f*ck it”. I know. I should expand my vocabulary, but that is just what I said. It felt wrong. I knew that I shouldn’t be holding on to it anymore.
And so I let go. And you know what? I got 2 new part-time jobs now that I am actually very giddy about. I am definitely happier than before.
And so, I leave you with these three simple rules on how to love the life you are in. And just like any blessing in your life --- use it and enjoy, feel lucky and grateful that you have it and when the time comes that it no longer applies, let it go and allow the new wisdom to flow.
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