We have recently launched our Erzullie 2018 campaign #WILDCURVES, urging Erzulliestas all around the world to just live their life fully without apologies. Go wild, make choices and whatever the results are --- good or bad --- all that matters is that every choice was done by you. This is the life you chose and this is how you are going to live it.
With that in mind, how does one live to be “wild”? Here are our steps:
#1 REFLECT ON THE THINGS THAT YOU WOULD LOVE TO DO THAT YOU KNOW WOULD BENEFIT YOU, BUT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WILL BE JUDGED FOR IT.
This is your life. Take time to sit down and reflect about the things that you would love to do or values that you would like to uphold, but you are afraid that you will be judged for it.
Do you like sex? Is it important to you? Write it down.
Do you like relationships? Does it make you feel enriched? Write it down.
Do you like your style? Does it empower you? Write it down.
The thing for this exercise is for you to finally be open and honest with your own self without your own judgement. Writing them down and actually seeing them face to face will help you finally see it as it is.
Now after writing them down, note what are the benefits that you get from these activities and values. This way, you will be able to identify if you are really doing this for yourself or for others. If it is for others or prove things to others, then you may want to reconsider.
You do this exercise for you. You do these activities for you. If you see other people’s names on that reasoning, back out. That is not for you.
#2 WRITE DOWN THE STEPS YOU CAN DO TO MAKE THIS LIST A REALITY.
After full reflection of what you really want to do and values to uphold, then write down the small steps you can do to live it out. No need for drastic measures. Just small steps would do.
Example, you say that personal style is important to you. The steps could be:
a.) Assess wardrobe
b b.) Know what I like
c.) Keep what I like and donate what I do not
d.) Buy things that only compliments what I have
You can even put a deadline on each if you wish to make sure that your actions have specific directions or goals to follow.
#3 OWE UP TO IT
You reflected and wrote it down. Now it is time for the brave part --- owe up to it. This is your list. This is how you want to live your life. Not actualize and do it.
Of course, there will be times that maybe by twist of fate, things change. The important part though is that you owe up to yourself. You need to start being more responsible to your own choices and make them on your own for your own. Change as you see fit! As long as you know it is your choice then do it. The point is to always know and be aware of the choices that you make and take it for what it brings you --- good or bad.
This is your life. You have lived it. And that ladies, is how to live wild.
Erzullie is an invite-only fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Get invited: www.erzullie.com